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A week ago Wednesday, I attended my second HurryDate event, this one intended for 25-35 year olds of both genders. This time there were 14 men, including one guy who just walked in on a whim, and 10 women, so apparently once again three women were unable or decided not to come. I'll be getting yet another free pass code as a result. One of the women was one of my mutual matches from the previous event. It turned out that I never saw her reply because of problems with the site and my possibly-mistaken expectation that the HurryDate site would email notification of messages. In any case, she was happy to reconnect, and we exchanged regular email addresses. Hopefully we'll meet for a date soon. She was also my only mutual match for this event.
Meanwhile, the conversations with the Salon women I mentioned in my last post on the topic have gone well. I had a date last Saturday evening with one of them, meeting for coffee and a few hours of conversation. I think it went well, but she's really busy right now and I'm not sure if we'll have a second date any time soon (if at all). The other woman and I have been working on arranging a date, and I think that will happen next week.
Now that I've actually started having dates, I'm faced with the issue of discretion. How much is too much to write on my journal? So far I've been careful to avoid any kind of identifiers beyond how I'm contacting or meeting these women. But my journal is easily findable through Google; am I courting trouble by even acknowledging here that I had a date with someone but am trying to arrange dates with two other women? or by mentioning which services I'm using, in connection with who I've met and who I haven't? I don't want to go completely silent on the topic, but I wonder whether saying anything at all is saying too much.![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
parkbenchzine has already expressed the opinion that even what I've said here will be too much, that hypothetically one of these women (or some future one) could find a post like this and decide to stop bothering with me. That seems extreme and unlikely to me, but still, it's not unreasonable to think I could be confronted with, "so, tell me about this other woman you're dating," which would certainly be awkward (at best). Any thoughts on this?
Meanwhile, the conversations with the Salon women I mentioned in my last post on the topic have gone well. I had a date last Saturday evening with one of them, meeting for coffee and a few hours of conversation. I think it went well, but she's really busy right now and I'm not sure if we'll have a second date any time soon (if at all). The other woman and I have been working on arranging a date, and I think that will happen next week.
Now that I've actually started having dates, I'm faced with the issue of discretion. How much is too much to write on my journal? So far I've been careful to avoid any kind of identifiers beyond how I'm contacting or meeting these women. But my journal is easily findable through Google; am I courting trouble by even acknowledging here that I had a date with someone but am trying to arrange dates with two other women? or by mentioning which services I'm using, in connection with who I've met and who I haven't? I don't want to go completely silent on the topic, but I wonder whether saying anything at all is saying too much.
parkbenchzine has already expressed the opinion that even what I've said here will be too much, that hypothetically one of these women (or some future one) could find a post like this and decide to stop bothering with me. That seems extreme and unlikely to me, but still, it's not unreasonable to think I could be confronted with, "so, tell me about this other woman you're dating," which would certainly be awkward (at best). Any thoughts on this?
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